There’s a lot of talks these days about the importance of staying present in your relationships. Staying present means being aware of the other person in both your listening and communication. It means helping others to feel that they have your complete attention and, ultimately that they are innately okay. For all of us, the ability to stay present in our personal and professional relationships is beneficial. As a life coach your ability to stay present with your clients is of the utmost value to their success.
Staying present is a difficult task for human begins. Our natural tendency is to focus on the past and in the future. Thoughts are constantly being pulled in all directions and rarely stay where they should be – in the present moment.
What can you do to stay more present for your clients during your coaching sessions? There are a number of strategies and techniques that life coaches can employ to help them hold the necessary space for their clients during coaching sessions.
Create a safe and secure environment.
The nature of the coach-client relationship is a vulnerable one. Your clients will be divulging some of their most personal goals, dreams, and struggles. As a coach, it is your job to create an environment where the client will feel safe to share with you and to allow themselves to be completely vulnerable. Some ways that you can create a safe and secure environment for your clients include: creating a comfortable office space, maintaining complete confidentiality of their information, doing what you say and saying what you do, and always acting in ways that promote a sense of trust.
Make it all about the client.
We all have things going on in our personal lives. From worrying about who will pick up the kids after school to the spat you had with your spouse in the morning, we all have things that take us away from being fully present. When you bring that worry into your life coaching sessions, you are immediately making it about you. Your thoughts and worries, whether you realize it or not, will impact the way you interact with your client. As a coach, you will need to be able to leave your stuff outside the session so that you can be completely present for your client. This can be difficult to do as human nature is relatively egocentric.
Give your undivided attention.
Have you ever been in a conversation where the other person doesn’t make eye contact, fidgets, checks her phone, or constantly scans the crowd? When you don’t receive someone’s complete attention, it can feel like you are not important. In a coaching session, it is imperative that you give the client your undivided attention. You can do this in many ways such as making eye contact, avoiding looking at the clock, listening with empathy, and showing enthusiasm for what they are saying.
The act of staying present with your coaching clients will help both of you get the most out of your coaching sessions. As a life coach, focusing on the creation of a safe and secure environment, leaving your ego at the door, and giving your complete attention to your clients every session will be the key to your success.
What techniques and strategies do you use to stay present with your life coaching clients?